charmaineCharmaine Roth

BA. Dip Ed. Grad Dip Counselling, Certificate Family Systems.

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COUPLES COUNSELLING

  1. HAVE MORE GOALS FOR YOURSELF THAN FOR YOUR PARTNER: Of course you want your partner to change to the way you would like them to be, otherwise you wouldn’t be looking into couples therapy! Focusing on your partner and trying to change them doesn’t work – you don’t get what you want. Working
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SHOULD I GO BACK TO WORK?

This article was published in Great Health Guide magazine in May 2016. “Motherhood has a very humanizing effect. Everything gets reduced to essentials.” – Meryl Streep One of the most difficult transitions for women is the leap from working when “child free” to making the choice between working or being a stay at home Mum.
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Charmaine Roth – Interview about My Working Journey.


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LOVE

February is the month devoted to LOVE.There are many different types of love that we all have in our lives… Don’t despair if you don’t have the “Valentine’s Day” type of love right now …..go to my article in “Natural Beauty Expert” to read about love and all the many ways love comes into our
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CARING FOR THOSE WITH DEPRESSION

Depression is a frightening illness. It is frightening because the sufferer seems to be taken over by the negative disease and their outlook becomes hopeless, they see themselves as worthless and they believe that they can’t be helped. Understandably, when one is living with a family member who has depression, help for the sufferer is
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INFIDELITY….The Affair

 “Its our imagination that’s responsible for love, not the other person” Proust. In the past, if someone was caught cheating and having an affair, the automatic assumption was that there must be something wrong with the relationship and the betrayed partner – after all it is the ultimate betrayal. According to leading relationship expert Esther
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VICTIM OR HERO……..?

ARE YOU A VICTIM OR HERO? “Although the mind resists it, the fact is that like me, you have a choice between having the life you want or the reasons why you can’t. You can luxuriate in joy and peace, or you can continually be burdened by that big black bag full of all the
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Criticism, Contempt, Defensivenes and Stonewalling don’t work.

All couples are guilty of some or all of these behaviours in our closest relationships. According to Dr John Gottman, they are the biggest predictors of divorce if they become a habit in the relationship. CRITICISM: “you always…” “you never…” Why are you…”This is attacking your partner’s character with the intent of making someone right
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RELATIONSHIPS

Relationships take hard work – there is no doubt about it. Clients often ask what I specialise in and my answer is “relationships.” The assumption then is that I work with couples – which I do, however I also have many individual clients who have neglected their relationship with themselves. It is how we relate
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FAMILY VISIT SURVIVAL GUIDE FOR THE HOLIDAYS

Well its that time of year again when a lot of time is spent with family.For some this can be extremely joyous and for others,this time of year can be fraught with anxiety.I am going to pass these survival tips from leading relationships expert Harriet Lerner. Tip #1: DO NOT DELEGATE YOUR FAMILY TO YOUR
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PERSONAL GROWTH…….

When a friend has a dilemma and confides in you – the immediate reaction of many is to give advice.How many of us fall into that trap and end up losing our friend because they blame us for decision that they have made.Yes we have all learnt that it is very dangerous to give advice
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PAINFUL EMOTIONS

EMOTIONS inform us and play an important role in how we think and behave.There are three components to emotions: 1. How we experience the emotion. 2. How our bodies react to the emotion 3. How we behave in response to the emotion. Many people I see find it very difficult to feel painful emotions. Many
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Treat yourself better….be kinder……

Helpful Tips For Your Inner Critic –by Juliana Breines. When we fail at something important to us, whether in relationships, at school, or at work, it can be very painful. These experiences can threaten the very core of who we think we are and who we want to be. To cope with failure, we often
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CONFLICT IS INEVITABLE,BUT COMBAT IS OPTIONAL……..Max Lucade.

Conflict is often best understood by examining the consequences of various behaviors at moments in time. These behaviors are usefully categorized according to conflict styles. Each style is a way to meet one’s needs in a dispute but may impact other people in different ways. Competing: A style in which one’s own needs are advocated
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GRIEF………

No-one can fail to be moved and shocked by the tragic events of last week.The images of the innocent victims on flight MH17 have galvanised a nation and we collectively mourn their loss. Grief is the natural response to a loss- something that has been taken away. Loss takes many forms,the most obvious being death.
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The Rebate Debate…..

Many times I am asked if my services are rebatable and, am I part of the Allied Health Scheme. The concept of receiving 6 sessions free, from a psychologist referred by a GP, is very tempting because of the obvious financial saving.There is also an expectation, that after seeing a psychologist for six sessions, somehow
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A Perfect Couple……..

We have just been bombarded with every little bit of information about Prince William, Kate the Duchess of Cambridge and little Prince George on their recent visit to Australia. It seems the public couldn’t get enough of the Royal couple with record crowds waiting for hours to catch a glimpse! What is the fascination with
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The reason Therapists always want to know about the family

People always ask what is the reason that Therapists always want to know about the family. Well its simple – whilst our parents are our caretakers, it is our siblings with whom we have our first social relationships, laying the foundations for all our future relationships. For example, in my own family of origin, I
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