1. HAVE MORE GOALS FOR YOURSELF THAN FOR YOUR PARTNER: Of course you want your partner to change to the way you would like them to be, otherwise you wouldn’t be looking into couples therapy! Focusing on your partner and trying to change them doesn’t work – you don’t get what you want. Working
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Therapy is about a commitment to making changes in the way you live your life. Change can be an uncomfortable concept, however you have already taken the first step by looking for assistance – welcome to my website.
All couples are guilty of some or all of these behaviours in our closest relationships. According to Dr John Gottman, they are the biggest predictors of divorce if they become a habit in the relationship. CRITICISM: “you always…” “you never…” Why are you…”This is attacking your partner’s character with the intent of making someone right
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Conflict is often best understood by examining the consequences of various behaviors at moments in time. These behaviors are usefully categorized according to conflict styles. Each style is a way to meet one’s needs in a dispute but may impact other people in different ways. Competing: A style in which one’s own needs are advocated
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