1. HAVE MORE GOALS FOR YOURSELF THAN FOR YOUR PARTNER: Of course you want your partner to change to the way you would like them to be, otherwise you wouldn’t be looking into couples therapy! Focusing on your partner and trying to change them doesn’t work – you don’t get what you want. Working
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Therapy is about a commitment to making changes in the way you live your life. Change can be an uncomfortable concept, however you have already taken the first step by looking for assistance – welcome to my website.
February is the month devoted to LOVE.There are many different types of love that we all have in our lives… Don’t despair if you don’t have the “Valentine’s Day” type of love right now …..go to my article in “Natural Beauty Expert” to read about love and all the many ways love comes into our
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Relationships take hard work – there is no doubt about it. Clients often ask what I specialise in and my answer is “relationships.” The assumption then is that I work with couples – which I do, however I also have many individual clients who have neglected their relationship with themselves. It is how we relate
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When a friend has a dilemma and confides in you – the immediate reaction of many is to give advice.How many of us fall into that trap and end up losing our friend because they blame us for decision that they have made.Yes we have all learnt that it is very dangerous to give advice
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Conflict is often best understood by examining the consequences of various behaviors at moments in time. These behaviors are usefully categorized according to conflict styles. Each style is a way to meet one’s needs in a dispute but may impact other people in different ways. Competing: A style in which one’s own needs are advocated
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People always ask what is the reason that Therapists always want to know about the family. Well its simple – whilst our parents are our caretakers, it is our siblings with whom we have our first social relationships, laying the foundations for all our future relationships. For example, in my own family of origin, I
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